First, I would like to apologize for the delay in posting my usual Friday Fashion lesson. Life is speeding up on my end of the world, therefor I will not be able to post as regularly as I did this past winter.
That said, I received a request from Nothing Fancy, requesting advice for ladies in the forty-something category. I have to start by telling you a story about my days working in the Insurance Industry. About 10 years ago, my boss who was over forty advised me that all women no matter their age should dress like they are 35 years old. In her case, she should dress “younger” and in mine, I should dress “older”. I am still curious why she made 35 the magic number. And now that I have attained that benchmark, what does it mean to dress like a 35 year old?
When thinking about women over forty and what is appropriate, I think as with any woman it varies. If you have a well toned body, you can get away with wearing tighter clothes than you could otherwise. However, it must be within reason. So how do we navigate that invisible fine line? Not even Julianne Moore dresses like she did on the cover of Vogue Paris in her daily life.
Here are some very general suggestion that I would give women who feel uncertain in what to choose while shopping. For the purposes of this post, I will stick with casual clothes.
Dofocus on fit first. As we age, all those sexy parts seem to shift. Boobs droop, butts sag, even our skin starts to loosen. It’s of the utmost importance to find clothes that fit, even if it requires a trip to the tailor. Also, be sure that you are wearing the correct size bra and undergarments. Panty lines and saggy bums are not a good look. Spanx has a minimizer with a little lift in the tush that can be your best kept secret.
As I discuss with each of my Fashion Lessons, focus on your assets. If you have toned arms or legs, show them off. If you have killer abs, rather than revealing them, you can wear a slim fitting shirt or dress.
Don’t borrow your teenager’s clothes or shop in the Junior section. The clothes in the Junior section run much smaller and are not proportionate to a woman’s figure.
Also, as I have mentioned before, if you want to participate in a current trend and you are old enough to remember it the first time around, Do choose wisely. Pick one item from said trend. If you like the new bright neon look, wear a bracelet or pair of earrings. Never dress head to toe in trendy items.
Don’t go too monochromatic. There was a time back in the 80’s when matching everything ruled. My advice is to break up your color scheme. If you are wearing a yellow vest, don’t carry a yellow purse, wear yellow shoes or yellow jewelry all together. The yellow vest is enough.
Don’t wear white shoes. This is just a personal opinion. I think if you are over 30 and are wearing white shoes, it ages you. Instead wear a pair of metallic sandals or heels. (See below for examples)
Do stick to showing off one asset at a time. If you are wearing a low cut shirt, wear a longer skirt (knee length or just above). The same goes if you are wearing a shorter (not mini) skirt, pair it with a more conservative top. You can be sexy without giving it all away.
Here are some suggestions for summer…
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Kids Sports Fan
Girls Night Out
All Purpose White Shirt And Jeans (notice the metallic bag)
One last thing, if it has been awhile since you have had your make up done, please go in to a place like Sephora for an updated look. You want to make sure that you are not still wearing lip liner or full on blue eye shadow. An update in your hair style and make up can make a world of difference. Oh, and just because you are 40, doesn’t mean that you have to cut your long hair. 😀
Nothing Fancy, I hope this addressed some of your questions. Again my apologies for getting this out so late. Please weigh in with your opinion, good or bad as to the selections or advice. Do you know someone who doesn’t dress their age? Tell us about them in the comment section.